Don’t let childhood trauma hold you back!
If you faced any sort of childhood trauma, you know how much it can affect your self-esteem, daily functioning and relationships. But it doesn’t need to define who you are now. And there is plenty you can do to improve these aspects of your life.
Therapy for childhood trauma: what is it?
I am an experienced psychotherapist based in central London. I have a special interest in working with adults who faced trauma in childhood. This may mean abuse, neglect, particular events, or any circumstances that were very difficult for you. I offer weekly, one-to-one psychotherapy for as long (or short) as you need it. This can be face to face or online.
Unlike many therapists who either have been trained in cognitive and behavioural therapies (such as CBT) or play down the usefulness of cognitive methods, I believe that working at both the cognitive (thought), behavioural and emotional levels is essential if you want to bring about real change in your life. In particular, you may need to identify patterns that were formed in childhood. These are often buried deep in our unconscious minds, so that we are completely unaware of them. Working with these is central to my therapy training and practice.
Therapy for childhood trauma: what does it look like?
Every session will be unique to you. It depends what you bring to them. That said, there are some issues that occur often. Click on the boxes below to find out more…
REVISITING YOUR IDENTITY
In practice, this means strengthening your self-worth, re-imagining your identity, and getting clarity on your own values.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT EMOTIONS
Following childhood trauma. many unresolved emotions can seep into just about everything we think and do – for example, anger, shame, guilt or sadness. We might be conscious of these or they may lie completely outside of our awareness. Either way, they can feed into our self-esteem, our scripts for managing every day life and our behaviours. Bringing these into conscious awareness and working on them in therapy can do much to improve our sense of well-being and help us operate better in daily life and relationships.
IMPROVING YOUR INTERPERSONAL & RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
We all need to improve our relational skills, but facing childhood trauma may have severely reduced your opportunity to develop these. Fortunately, these can be gradually learnt in later life. Trauma may also mean you have learnt relationship patterns which protected you as a child, but which are now unhelpful as an adult. As with emotions, we may be completely unaware of these until we begin to look carefully. Even then, many are hidden even from ourselves. Psychodynamic therapy is designed to address exactly that problem.
MANAGING DISTRESS AND DISSOCIATION
If your distress is at a higher level, we can work on this and any dissociation, in particular:
- staying grounded if you dissociate
- tolerating distress and managing strong emotions
- staying connected to what is really happening with the person you are relating to, without projecting or guessing.
Some people feel they cannot be helped, for example if they are considered to have C-PTSD or BPD/EUPD. That is not true. All of the things mentioned above can help.
Am I eligible to book a consultation?
You will need to be 18 years old or over. That is all!
Who decides if you experienced childhood trauma? You do.
You don’t need a referral or a diagnosis of any sort. If you feel you experienced any sort of trauma in childhood, that is all I need for you to book this consultation. The degree of impact on you and the duration of the trauma are not important. The important thing is that you have taken another (big) step in the direction of living a fulfilling life, despite what you experienced as a child.
I am limited in the numbers of people I can take on each month for working with childhood trauma. If you are looking for support quickly, please don’t delay in booking your consultation.
The initial consultation lasts for up to 30 minutes. There is no charge. It can be held over the telephone or an encrypted video link. This is an opportunity for you to tell me what you need from therapy and to ask questions about the therapy I can offer. We can then decide the way forward.
Or: go to my Contact Form if you prefer to book a face to face Introductory Session. The fee is £30-£40 depending on the venue.
Book a consultation
It is easy to book a free 30-minute initial consultation via telephone or encrypted video link. Simply select a date and time on the calendar below and fill out the boxes. Then click on the ‘schedule event’ button. You will see a booking confirmation on your screen and receive an email confirmation.
What happens after you book? Depending on your choice, I will either call you at your chosen time or email you instructions for a video call, normally the day before the call.
Thank you for visiting my consultation page. You can now flick through the calendar above to find the right date and time for you.