Are you someone who…

  • Has lost someone and needs support while you are grieving?
  • Is struggling to get through the day or imagine a future for yourself?
  • Maybe has suffered a sudden, complicated or traumatic bereavement?

This is for you if ..

  • You sometimes mistake someone else for them in the street and find it confusing or upsetting
  • You’re in the middle of a conversation and want to cry ‘for no reason’
  • There is certain music you still can’t listen to
  • You feel like everyone else has moved on and nobody understands what it’s like to be you
  • You feel numb with little or no feelings

At present, we are all bombarded daily with the news of sustained and catastrophic loss of life. This can make our own grief harder to deal with.

Bereavement counselling or therapy is to help you cope without having to worry that you’re going to fall apart. So that you can start to believe that a future is possible. Please try and read through this page. But if that is too difficult, you can use the link below to jump to the end of the page.

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Maybe you already have tried…

  • following other people’s advice about grieving
  • a self-help book or googled ‘how to cope with grief’
  • repeating positive affirmations
  • support groups
  • a counselling session that didn’t feel right ?

We hope these have helped you with that feeling that your world has been turned upside down. So that you can sit and talk comfortably to a friend about the person who has died without being overwhelmed by it all.

But if not…

You can transform your grief

Do you ask yourself if you will ever get over it?

Clients often tell me: “My life will never be the same again.” This is true. There is a big mental shift or adjustment that must be made in coping after someone in your life dies.

Clients also say: “I won’t ever to be able to cope with life or find pleasure in life again.” This is not true. The adjustment to your new life can be made.

This is what I help clients with all the time. This is what I can help you with. So that you can do this without having to…

  • Worry that people think you’re weak or silly for still getting emotional or anxious
  • Go over and over things in your head without finding any answers
  • Worry that you’re overloading the people around you
  • Explain to your friends that you’re on medication for anxiety or mood swings or depression

Do you recognise any of these?

  • You find yourself starting something, then give up because it feels meaningless now
  • You are not eating or exercising properly or starting to worry about your health
  • You don’t even feel like getting dressed in the morning
  • You’re feeling disconnected from people around you because they have moved on and don’t understand how you feel

Distressing though these are, please be reassured that they are all very normal aspects of grieving. Ask yourself sincerely, are you struggling to get through the day sometimes? Are you feeling overwhelmed, devastated or alone? Do you need some support?

If you’re already finding this difficult and don’t want to read more about how therapy works, click on the link below to skip to the bottom of the page.

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Bereavement therapy

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Everyone has a different upbringing which greatly affects how we grieve. So everyone grieves differently and bereavement counselling must be tailored to your particular needs. But here are a few pointers as to what it might look like, based on experience with many clients. ….

#1 Finding your personal path through grief

At first, the therapy will help you to:

  • Cope with all the difficult feelings that come your way
  • Allow you to face your loss and the need to continue with the practicalities of life
  • Find your own personal path through grieving, learning what works and what doesn’t
  • Gradually find a calmer place from where you can rebuild your life (which seems impossible right now)

Why?

  • We recognise there is no straight path through grief. That it is normal to go back and forwards between focusing on the loss and rebuilding your life. Finding your own path through grief and what works for you personally is far more effective.
  • Pushing the feelings away will mean they just resurface later. But they don’t need to be ‘worked through’ as a task. They just need to be allowed to happen.
#2 Dealing with complications

There are many things that can make your grieving process longer and more complicated:

  • You may not have been able to say goodbye in the way you wished.
  • You may have mixed feelings or unresolved issues feelings about the person you have lost.
  • There may be tensions or splits in the family or differences in the way people grieve.
  • Disagreements about money, property or the will.
  • The death may not have been from natural causes, for example the person took their own life or was killed. Or the death was sudden or violent.
  • Criminal proceedings or an inquest.

A good counsellor will be confident in helping you understand and deal with any of these that are affecting you.

Why?

  • Such complications can add a whole layer of complexity to your emotions and your grieving. It is important to help you keep focused on your own needs, as well as processing these very real complications.
  • Sudden or traumatic deaths may cause a certain amount of trauma for you also. It is important that this is well understood and that your therapist can help with this.
#3 Adjusting to your new life

Right now, you may be scared about the future and not ready to face it. But eventually you will be able to. Counselling will help you with…

  • Finding a new place in your life for the person who has died (or even no place if you choose)
  • Adjusting to the new reality that is your life now
  • Maintaining your own vitality
  • Planning your new future without feeling guilty
Enjoying life again

Why?

  • We never return to what was ‘normal’ before the loss. (There is no such thing as complete ‘closure’). But, with help, we can adjust and find a ‘new normal’.
  • It is natural to want to keep alive the memory of someone close to us. This can be done at the same time as building a new life.

Grieving is one of the hardest experiences you will ever have to go through. You do not have to do this alone.  When you are trying to piece your life together but can’t make it all add up, counselling can help.  It will not ‘fix’ anything, but it can help you to that calmer place where you can imagine looking forward to life again.

Grieving is one of the hardest experiences you will ever have to go through. You do not have to do this alone.  When you are trying to piece your life together but can’t make it all add up, counselling can help.  It will not ‘fix’ anything, but it can help you to that calmer place where you can imagine looking forward to life again.

BOOK AN INTRODUCTORY SESSION HERE (or make an enquiry)

If you are finding it difficult to work through the grief on your own, it may be time to find a new way of doing things.

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Juline is an experienced psychotherapist whose training includes specialist training in traumatic bereavement. Counselling can be face to face or online. Click here to read more about Juline’s training and experience.